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You have nothing to fear

4/23/2014

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I feel like I am starting all over with the grieving process. It is hard. These lyrics are beautiful and sum up how I feel.

You have nothing to fear from the journey,
Though your way may be burdened by thorns.
For the Lord will be with you each step of the way
As you travel with faith through the storm.
And you've nothing to fear from your trials,
Though they may seem too heavy to bear.
Take His hand and He'll lead you gently along
And you'll find peace and safety there.

There is nothing to fear from the nights that are lonely,
There's nothing to fear from the cold!
There is nothing to fear from what might be tomorrow,
For heaven is with you, And angels watch over His fold.

You have nothing to fear from the journey,
Though your body is tired and worn.
For the Lord will send angels to lift up your arms
And He'll carry the burden you've born.
And you've nothing to fear from your suff'ring,
Nor the grief you've been called on to bear,
Take His hand and He'll lead you gently along
And you'll find peace and safety there.


Lyrics by: Rob Gardner
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A new possible path

4/22/2014

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We met with the geneticist for 1.5 hours. He observed Elise, asked us lots of questions, went over our family history, then did a full assessment on her. Every so often he would step out of the room for a few minutes. 

My palms started to get sweaty and I could almost feel my blood pressure rise. I knew that at the end of this visit either we would come away with a new diagnosis or feel content with the one she already had.

I knew the answer before he even said it. I've known for awhile but I've kept hoping I was reading into it.

The geneticist clinically diagnosed Elise with Rett Syndrome.

She will be getting blood work done in the next couple weeks to confirm it, but on his progress notes, that was his primary diagnosis.

I remember the first time I realized Elise more likely than not had Rett Syndrome. I grabbed her ipad and looked up the symptoms because it had been awhile since I had looked them over. I read them over and over then got this sick feeling and I knew. I sat on the bathroom floor and cried. 

I kept trying to forget about it until our appointment but this last month when I saw our pediatrician, she pretty much confirmed it to me as well. I remember her saying, "I'm not so sure it's autism, I think Elise has a syndrome." 

At another appointment she kept talking about it like she knew she had it. I realized the pediatrician had to be quite certain that's what it was in order to be talking like that to a mom. We as mothers get worked up easily, especially when it comes to our children and there's no way she would bring it up let alone say that's what it was unless she knew of a surety.

At the end of our visit, the geneticist came back in, turned to me, and asked me what my gut feeling was. I told him I thought she had Retts. He said, "Well I agree with you." 

I had a hard time concentrating on what he said after that. A dozen images flashed through my mind. Little girls in wheelchairs, not speaking, not using their hands, and using an eye gaze device to communicate. I can't express how scared I was. Scared of her possible future, scared of our family's possible future, scared of the what ifs, scared of all the possible "endings," and scared of not ever hearing my little girl talk to me. It hurts.

I find when I am talking with doctors and therapists I step into nurse mode. The nurse in me comes out and I treat Elise like she's a patient. I hold myself together and can think logically but when I leave, mommy mode takes over and I'm not so strong anymore. I kept telling myself I was getting carried away and hopefully she wouldn't regress that much and to hold on to hope but in the moment, it's hard to think logically.

As I was walking to our van in the parking garage I heard the scripture distinctly in my head saying, "I will be on your right hand and on your left and mine angels round about to bear you up."

That night we told the kids that she didn't have autism. Brock started cheering and was so excited. He kept saying, "Yay she will be able to talk now and play with me!" Mine and Ezra's heart broke. We told them she most likely will never talk. That is the worst part of it. Sometimes I just hurt so much from wanting to hear my little girl tell me she loves me or what her favorite color is. 

I will never give up hope or stop believing in miracles but every doctor we have talked to has said her form of communication will come through a device. I am even more grateful for her ipad now.

The rest of that day and the couple following it were hard. I felt like I had to almost go through the grieving process again. 

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Easter

4/20/2014

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Elise in her easter dress. 

We had Stake Conference today and I was amazed at how well she did. She stayed in there the whole 2 hours! Gasp! It was unreal. She was so calm and still. She snuggled with Ez and eventually fell asleep. I think he was enjoying that moment as much as I was watching the two of them.
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Coloring easter eggs

4/19/2014

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I put Elise up to TRY to help in the coloring. The only thing she wanted to do was pick up the eggs and throw them on the floor. According to Brock they are now dinosaur eggs ready to hatch :)
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Saying her prayers

4/16/2014

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This is how Elise says her prayers every night. It is super sweet. She is always so still and calm when she does.

What made tonight even sweeter was that her "voice" was different. Earlier today I found out how to change the voice of the speaker from a robotic woman to a sweet little girl voice. It seriously was such a sweet moment for me. I kept "awwwing" at the little girl voice. 

Sometimes all I want is for her to talk to me. Since that probably won't happen for awhile, this sweet little voice will do for sure!
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Sometimes it's just hard

4/13/2014

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Elise had a REALLY rough day at church. Thankfully my parents were here to help me out. All of it got to me and I left my parents with the kids and went on a drive by myself. I couldn't take it anymore. Sometimes it's just hard. It felt good to clear my head and breathe.

I think all the emotions of our upcoming geneticist appointment are getting to me. I'm ready to know and ready to move on and accept our new possible future.
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Special needs easter egg hunt

4/12/2014

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I was partial to if Elise did the egg hunt or not. She was tired and we almost left before the easter egg hunt started. One of the main reasons why I wanted to stay was to give Bryn and Brock the opportunity to serve their little sister.

This was not over in 2 minutes nor was it a race against everyone else to get the most candy. It was about helping someone else out that wasn't capable of doing it themselves.

Bryn was Elise's hands for those few minutes.
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"God is in the details of our lives."

4/9/2014

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Starting next week all her behavioral therapy will be home-based! I am super excited to have one less place to drive to. It was a tender mercy how it came about and I know it's what she needs most and what we need.

One day I had a sudden impression that she cannot handle being "out" at another place and needed to be home. I quickly acted on the prompting and later received a phone call from the supervisor. She told me Elise would be getting therapy Friday mornings now instead of Wednesday afternoons. This surprised me because Fridays have been my preferred day but they have been full so I haven't been able to do that day. I was humbled to have it all fall into place so perfectly and know,

"God is in the details of our lives." -Pres. Thomas S. Monson
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A bathroom for a playroom

4/7/2014

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Usually little girls' play time comprises doll houses and babies. This little girl has found her playroom and it's the BATHROOM! She climbs onto the counter sink (this is a little frightening), climbs in and out of the bathtub and throws toy animals in and out. She does this over and over and it makes me soooo excited because she is PLAYING!!!

Yes not typical play but I never expect typical anything anymore. Like I explain to my kids about autism, her brain works differently than ours. It's not bad it's just different and we will embrace and love everything about this cutie!
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    Lindsey

    I LOVE being a mom to my 5 kids; one with special needs. There is no greater joy than being a parent! I love each one individually but this blog will mostly focus on our daughter with special needs and our journey with her. Thanks for reading!

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