Bryn and Brock have their daily jobs they have to do before they play. I recently included "service" on there. The service I have them do every day is for each of them to play with Elise. I have been amazed at how serious they have taken to this and how much they look forward to it.
The first day Brock did it I realized the therapist had really taught them how to play with her. I was expecting them to play beside her, sing to her or chase her.
Instead Brock came to ME and asked me where Elise's ipad was. I got it and brought up her app. He went into the sensory room where she was playing with her preferred toy. He was trying so hard to get her to choose a different toy on the ipad but she wasn't interested. He came to me again and asked for me to get her timer on, visually showing her she had one minute until she was to transition to a new toy.
Brock went into the room, showed her the timer and told her she had one minute left. When the timer went off he turned off her toy and tried so hard for her to choose a new toy. I heard her crying and eventually he got her playing with some other toys.
Later he came out and said she had chosen "snack" on her ipad and that she chose marshmallows. He asked me to get her in her chair and I did. Brock got her bowl and set it on her tray in case she started throwing food, like the therapist and me have been teaching her. She ate marshmallows for awhile then chose chips and Brock helped her the whole time. After he asked me if he could take her for a walk in the stroller.
I laughed to myself because this was the exact routine the therapists and I do with her every day. I hadn't realized Brock had caught on and was so eager to follow it.
Bryn had Elise choose on her ipad what toy she wanted to play with and she chose the star light-up toy. Bryn purposely got Elise's chair and table and did hand-over-hand with her, putting the stars on. Elise has just begun to tolerate and kind of enjoy this toy. I hadn't yet seen her actually try to put the stars on and getting really close to doing it before. Her visual/motor skills are very poor so I was glad to see her looking at the toy and attempting to get the star on.
These kiddos are going to be well-trained years from now!
A big box showed up on our porch and inside were these beautiful flowers and vase from Ez's co-worker and his family. I'm grateful for their thoughtfulness as well as so many others during this time.
The acts of service vary from gifts, to a listening ear, to having someone to hug and cry to. My friends have been so sweet. So many of them ask how they can help and I have a hard time answering that question when I don't even know what I need. Without asking they brought us meals, cried with me, took me to lunch, and listened. One friend suggested making shirts for our girls with special needs for our upcoming race. It was such a wonderful idea and I can't wait to run in it!
Lots of other people say they are praying for us. They say they feel bad because that's all they can do. What they don't know is that it really does help and I'm grateful for their thoughtfulness. After the first few days, all of a sudden I snapped out of it and I feel stronger now than before. I have felt the strength from everyone's prayers. It is real.
I was partial to if Elise did the egg hunt or not. She was tired and we almost left before the easter egg hunt started. One of the main reasons why I wanted to stay was to give Bryn and Brock the opportunity to serve their little sister.
This was not over in 2 minutes nor was it a race against everyone else to get the most candy. It was about helping someone else out that wasn't capable of doing it themselves.
Bryn was Elise's hands for those few minutes.
I LOVE being a mom to my 5 kids; one with special needs. There is no greater joy than being a parent! I love each one individually but this blog will mostly focus on our daughter with special needs and our journey with her. Thanks for reading!